This is Me - Rude
This is a post included in the This is Me series where I answer 1001 questions about myself as writing practice. Each post consists of me answering 5 questions about myself. Wanna share what you would answer to any or all of the questions? Do it in the comments section!
WOULD PEOPLE YOU KNOW DESCRIBE YOU AS ACCOMMODATING?
I am an enneagram 9 aka "the peacemaker" and my #1 strength on the Strengths Finder test is "harmony". I would say yes, people would describe me as accommodating.
If I'm going to be selfish its going to be with my time. But when I'm with other people, the things I may want fall right to the bottom of the list. Mainly, it's because I know how to make the most of situations and see the positive. And unless it's something I feel SUPER passionate about (which is not a lot of things) then I don't mind accommodating with other people might want or need.
There is also a big part of me that doesn't want to deal with people complaining or being unhappy about going somewhere or doing something that I suggested. If I push to go to a certain restaurant and then my friend hates it, I feel somewhat responsible. I know logically that's not really true, but it feels true and sometimes that does motivate my ability to be accommodating.
WHAT WOULD YOU DESCRIBE AS BEAUTIFUL?
God's creation. I have been to many beautiful places here in the US and a few places internationally and nothing compares to the beauty of the natural world. The colors, the behaviors, the stillness and peace...it's all so breathtaking. And I don't even have to go far, the cotton candy and lemon drop sunsets visit me often in my own backyard and I can sit in wonder of the majesty of God's color palette.
WHAT WOULD YOU DESCRIBE AS UGLY?
Behaviors that are blatantly self serving, manipulative and thoughtless.
WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE RUDE?
When someone isn't considerate of the fact that you are a person with inherent worth and value. You can have a heated argument with high levels of disagreement without ever being rude as long as you still value the worth of the person you are disagreeing with. All rude behavior stems from this lack of consideration.
WHAT DOES THE CONCEPT OF SOULMATES MEAN TO YOU?
I think it's a hokey and flakey "feel good" term that ends up letting people down. Love is a choice, not an emotion and while you may "feel" certain things at the beginning of a relationship, I can guarantee you won't "feel" those things forever. Love is an action, something you decide to show someone because you have a history, because you made a commitment.
I get why people feel like they have a soulmate because the feelings of attraction are often so strong in the beginning that it feels like there is no one who you could ever feel that strongly towards. But those feelings fade. If you believe in soulmates you might think you haven't met yours yet and end up bouncing from relationship to relationship and never experiencing the joy and satisfaction that comes from a long term relationship.
